There’s a difference between having expectations versus having a positive intention.
An expectation is often attached to conditions and outcomes. For example, we expect that this new date, will lead to that amazing relationship we’ve wanted for a long time. Before we’re at the date, we’ve already set up a condition and an outcome in our mind.
What happens, is at the date, we may end up unintentionally coming off too strong or we may excessively worry about he/she thinks.
In contrast, by letting go of particular expectations or outcomes, we allow the situation to unfold more organically and we may have a lot more fun since we’re not assuming this relationship is the be-all end-all of all relationships. We’re not insisting on an outcome, so we’re not putting our focus on manipulating the conversation or forcefully pushing the interactions to go a certain way.
A positive intention on the other hand, helps release ourselves from the limits of particular expectations and allows us to broaden up our expectations.
For example, If I wanted to get a new job. Instead of saying, “I must work at xyz company, in this department, earning $xx,xxx”
You can actually reframe this expectation with an intention:
“I am totally open and receptive to a wonderful new position, one that uses all my talents and abilities, and allows me to express creatively in ways that are fulfilling to me. I work with and for people whom I love, and who love and respect me, in a wonderful location and earning good money. “
What we desire in a new job are these key ingredients that are listed above and often, whether we work in department x or department y, may not ultimately matter. An intention allows for flexibility and openness in the ‘costume/details’ of the event, as long as the core values and principles are met.
Can I allow life to unfold in it’s own way, trusting that it is unfolding for my highest good?
Can I trust that the particulars will fill in, in ways that may delight and surprise me?
I enjoy bringing in certain intentions in my chi gong practice. After the chi gong practice, we are in a much more receptive and peaceful state, with less resistance. With less resistance and insistence on a particular outcome, it’s a lot easier to believe that we can allow life to unfold in it’s magical ways.